Tuesday, July 11, 2023

Christian Moms Blog guest post: "Wisdom From A Mom From the 60s"

Wisdom From A Mom From the 60s

Having been given the opportunity to write for Christian Moms Blog, I set to thinking what I, a very senior “Mom,” could share with today’s modern mothers that might enlighten, encourage, and perhaps entertain them a bit. As a Christian, I would like to state emphatically that without the Grace of God and His strengthening me in my weak moments and His holding me firmly in His Almighty hand, I simply would not have made it.

I was a young mother in the 1960s and those were tumultuous years – the 1960s and 1970s. So much was changing morally, politically, and socially. But even in the midst of that turmoil and the heart-wrenching news of the day, my biggest concern was my home – my young family and my dear husband. We had a large family. We had four children in just under six years, and then child number five was born just as the others were all settled nicely in school. So a full house.

And a very limited amount of cash to provide our necessities. We weren’t destitute, but things were really tight. So care in spending was our way of life. No extras to speak of. No vacations. No frills. I cooked. I cleaned. I made our clothes when we had new clothes. I re-made hand-me-downs.

Our family was active in our local church. I taught VBC and Sunday School, and I sang in the choir. My husband taught the adult Sunday School class and was a Deacon. He was also a trustee of the small Christian school our church began. We took our children to church, and our life revolved very much around church activities.

So life was busy. Life was a joy. Life was physically hard at times. Life was emotionally difficult at times. And life took a toll on me physically and emotionally. Stress kicked in and it kicked hard.

On several occasions, my body or my mind simply betrayed me and screamed “Stop” so loudly that it rattled me to the core.

Hospital visits. Frightening signs of heart distress that are even more frightening when it happens to a young mother with a mountain of responsibilities at home. Emotional breakdowns and medications to get through the stress.

Signs that I was weak or that my burden was too much. But no matter the cause, I found a peace that would come. A knowing that I had a source of strength and comfort.

And from God’s Word, the words in Isaiah 26 became a vital reality to me… 
“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.”
And even today, in my advanced senior years and though my days of being a young stressed-out mother are way past, I find that I am still a Christian Mom. My mothering is from a distance for my grown kids who have grown kids of their own. I am a Christian wife whose husband died just over a year ago, and I no longer have those “wifely” duties. I am a Christian woman who has experienced aging, survived cancer, and daily tries to live gracefully in the isolation and loneliness of this time of life.

And still……

I have that assurance of “perfect peace” as I keep my mind “stayed” on God. I trust Him for His faithfulness now, and I trusted Him for His faithfulness through the years.

So to young mothers today, I encourage you to gather your family close, treasure each moment you have with them even though some of those moments are difficult, and seek God’s comfort and His strengthening power. I hope you will find joy in knowing that you are an instrument of God on Earth as you walk this path. And I hope you will be entertained by the wee moments of delight that flash before you as the antics of your loved ones are played out through the days.

Treasure the joys. Discard the pain. Share the hope.

--by Vera Godley, Owner of "Chat With Vera"

(Appeared first in Christian Moms blog. Please visit them to read more quality "Mom" articles that will be a blessing to you.)


  1. I got the chills reading your testimony! My childhood was horrible, so I ran away and got into drugs really bad! Like you said the 60's & 70’s were a time that did a total moral turnaround! I got pregnant at 17. That baby saved my worthless life! I completely stopped drugs, smoking, etc. on August 14, 1974. Rachel Leah was born exactly 2 weeks after my 18th birthday! I also had another baby girl on July 19, 1977. I became a Christian before I had her! Her father went to the same church I did. I was lonely and very young! I was celibate the whole time since I had Rachel. The devil used Julie’s dad to play on my loneliness & I fell away from God! I couldn’t get an abortion or give her up. Even though a family was going to pay me good money for her! Plus Rachel knew mommy had a baby in her belly! Ii met my husband over 42 years ago. He didn’t care that I had 2 children already cuz his dad left his mother, sister & him! He was in Vietnam and got sick with malaria from the mosquitoes and the swamps/rice paddies he slept in. I won’t go into all the details of our love story. He was 8 years older than I was, but I didn’t care. Anyway, we became a family. I had two more girls with him. I wanted one more baby. I wanted a little boy so bad. Don said no. He couldn’t get into the one bathroom we had then! He said if he would have known he was going to.be a dad of 4 girls, he would have bought stock in toilet paper and pads!! We were. Not rich. I always worked too. I was so busy and a worried wart that I got a bleeding ulcer. One thing we always did was teach the kids about Jesus. They all went to a church camp one week every summer! That was expensive, but so worth it!! I have to make this short. I could write a book! I had a lot of health problems and I ended up in my 49’s having Multiple Myeloma. I went through back surgery, chemo, radiation and a stem cell transplant!
    I was so sick a long time before they found the tumor on my spine and afterwards! My husband was sent to me by God! He stepped up! He took care of the kids, our pets, worked and when I finally came home from Rush, he took care of me! Our bedroom looked like a hospital room. Anyway Our kids grew up. Our girls gave us 15 grandkids and two great grandkids so far from our oldest granddaughter. I swear the years flew by! In February 2021, my 2 brothers died two days apart! I was so depressed! They were both younger than me. That November, my husband had Hep C from Vietnam (I have it too)! I was in a darker place now! Watching him get chemo and getting sicker and frailer! We went for a week vacation to TN in April 2022. He got sepsis because his liver was not working. It was not filtering anything anymore. He died May 5, 2022. Our whole family still has not recovered from this!! He was our human backbone. I did think of killing my self. That’s where my faith in God comes in! Suicide is a sin! I don’t know why God has spared my life? I know we are not supposed to ask and everything happens for a reason & in His time!! I sold our house of 26 years and moved with two of my daughters and their families to Florida. I love God! I know He loves me! I still get depressed, I stop and pray. I know I have other family members watching me. I have to stay strong! My husband was only 74. He gave a lot of love in his lifetime. I thank God for all the years He blessed me with Don!! God is coming! I can’t wait!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🩵💙❤️‍🩹💝 I will keep you in my prayers- please stay strong! Don’t let yourself get physically sick from all of this 😇.

  2. Thank you, Sue E., for sharing your story. God is good all the time and even in our distress He is there and He is good. Hold onto your faith but even in your weaknesses, hold onto the truth that God is there for you in every circumstance. And as I said in ending..... Treasure the joys. Discard the pain. Share the hope.


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